Ego-Centric leadership and self-interest are the two most common obstacles to working with other individuals or organizations and to realizing growth and positive outcomes. One’s progress or forward momentum in personal growth or development can be severely influenced when the ego takes control and interferes with goal-directed activities.
The ego, or that part of the mind that constantly thinks in terms of I, Me, and Mine is one of the buttons that some press deliberately to divert others from a path of effective personal development or self-improvement and onto a road of consistent and continual frustration.
One of the conscious efforts that can be made to avoid this is to control the ego, or the ego’s reactions, particularly in terms of responses to events triggered by others behaviors that are often irritating, depressing, or critical in nature.
Everyone knows at least some or most of the circumstances that can upset them to the ninth degree. Someone says something disparaging or insulting; somebody disagrees with one or more beliefs or opinions; somebody says something critical; or someone pulls ahead into the exact parking space that was being targeted at a shopping center.
Normal reaction to events like these could range from mild irritation to an intense anger coupled with constantly reviewing the disturbing events or comments over and over again and disrupting life for hours, and perhaps even days. As a result, efforts at personal development temporarily shut down. This is the ego at work, making thoughts run in directions that they really don’t need to go.
Truth Be Told, I’m just as susceptible to the above as the rest of us. It’s a constant battle, is it not?